정서중심커플치료(EFCT)는 커플 치료법에 있어서 최고의 모범 사례이며, 30년 이상의 연구가 뒷받침되었다. EFCT는 커플 간에 고통을 완화하고 치유를 위한 긍정적이고 정서적인 유대감을 촉진하는 것으로 나타났다. 이 워크북은 일반적으로 커플들을 위한 심리치료 이론을 기반으로 한 안내서로서, 커플들에게 관계 만족도를 높이는 데 구체적인 과정을 안내하도록 구성되었다.
제1부 관계 고통을 이해하기(UNDERSTANDING RELATIONSHIP DISTRESS) / 21
제1장 애착이론 기본(Attachment Theory Basics) ····························23
안정 애착은 왜 필요한가?(WHY ARE SECURE BONDS NECESSARY?) ····················24
초기 애착경험의 영향력(THE IMPACT OF EARLY ATTACHMENT EXPERIENCES) ·30
성인기 애착(ATTACHMENT IN ADULTS) ···································37
A. R. E. ···········································································44
마무리하며 ·······································································47
제2장 부정적인 관계 사이클(Negative Relationship Cycles) ···············49
관계 사이클(Relationship Cycles) ············································50
마무리하며 ·······································································65
제2부 정서 탐색하기(Navigating Emotions) / 67
제3장 정서를 함께 조율하기(Regulating Emotions Together) ·············69
모든 정서를 느끼는 것(FEELING ALL FEELINGS) ·························70
공동 조율의 힘(The Power of Co-Regulation) ····························71
마무리하며 ·······································································78
제4장 핵심 정서와 반사적 정서(Core vs. Reactive Emotions) ············79
부정적 사이클에서 핵심정서와 반사적 정서가 하는 역할(THE ROLE CORE VS. REACTIVE EMOTIONS PLAY IN NEGATIVE CYCLES) ·80
마무리하며 ·······································································88
제5장 민감성 증가시키기(Surging Sensitivity) ··································89
원상처 식별(IDENTIFYING RAW SPOTS) ···································90
원상처 극복하기(BREAKING DOWN RAW SPOTS) ·······················96
단절 회복을 위한 단계적 약화 대화법(DE-ESCALATING TO REPAIR DISCONNECTION) ·················102
마무리하며 ······································································110
제6장 정서적 유대감을 강화하는 대화(EMOTIONAL BONDING CONVERSATIONS) ·111
당신을 취약하게 느끼도록 만드는 정서를 표현하기(ARTICULATING EMOTIONS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL VULNERABLE) ··············112
반응의 역할(THE ROLE OF RESPONDING) ·······························123
마무리하며 ······································································126
제7장 애착손상 치료하기(HEALING ATTACHMENT INJURIES) ··········127
애착손상이란 무엇인가?(WHAT ARE ATTACHMENT INJURIES?) ······128
다 잘 되고 있었는데…(THINGS WERE GOING SO WELL...) ··········142
마무리하며 ······································································143
제9장 유대감 유지하기(Maintaining Bonds) ···································167
앞으로 나아가는 방법 알기(KNOWING HOW TO MOVE FORWARD) ······················168
의식이 중요한 이유(IMPORTANCE OF RITUALS) ························174
마무리하며 ······································································180
마치는 글 ················································································181
용어집 ····················································································182
관련 자료 ················································································186
참고문헌 ·················································································187
찾아보기 ·················································································195
감사의 글 ················································································198
저자 소개 ················································································200
역자 소개 ················································································201
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로리 클러프 셰이드,김현진,문성일,김은지,정희정,정용석
로리 클러프 셰이드(Lori Cluff Schade, PhD)는 공인받은 결혼과 가족치료사(LMFT: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist)이며, 미국 결혼과 가족치료학회 공인 임상 슈퍼바이저(AAMFT-approved supervisor), 그리고 EFT 공인 슈퍼바이저 및 임상 치료사로 유타주에 있는 플레전트 그로브(Pleasant Grove)에서 활동하고 있다. 그녀는 Compassionate Connections Counseling을 운영하고 있으며 브리검 영 대학교(Brigham Young University)에서 결혼 및 가족 치료 학과의 겸임교수로 일하고 있다. 30년 넘게 7명의 자녀를 키우는 것과 함께 치료사로 일해 왔고, 이 분야에서 여러 동료 심사(peer-reviewed) 논문 및 책 챕터를 저술했다. 여가 시간에는 달리기, 사이클링, 뜨개질, 오르간이나 피아노 연주를 즐긴다. 그녀가 가장 좋아하는 활동은 무엇이든 새로운 것을 해보는 것이다. 그녀는 자신이 좋아하는 일을 할 수 있는 직업을 가진 것에 감사하고 있다.
로리 클러프 셰이드(Lori Cluff Schade, PhD)는 공인받은 결혼과 가족치료사(LMFT: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist)이며, 미국 결혼과 가족치료학회 공인 임상 슈퍼바이저(AAMFT-approved supervisor), 그리고 EFT 공인 슈퍼바이저 및 임상 치료사로 유타주에 있는 플레전트 그로브(Pleasant Grove)에서 활동하고 있다. 그녀는 Compassionate Connections Counseling을 운영하고 있으며 브리검 영 대학교(Brigham Young University)에서 결혼 및 가족 치료 학과의 겸임교수로 일하고 있다. 30년 넘게 7명의 자녀를 키우는 것과 함께 치료사로 일해 왔고, 이 분야에서 여러 동료 심사(peer-reviewed) 논문 및 책 챕터를 저술했다. 여가 시간에는 달리기, 사이클링, 뜨개질, 오르간이나 피아노 연주를 즐긴다. 그녀가 가장 좋아하는 활동은 무엇이든 새로운 것을 해보는 것이다. 그녀는 자신이 좋아하는 일을 할 수 있는 직업을 가진 것에 감사하고 있다.